“Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.”
~ Buddha 

      

                                                               
Why We Shout When In Anger


A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked.


'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'


Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'


'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the saint


Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .


'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.


What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'


The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'


He looked at his disciples and said.


'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return. They may end up in divorce courts, for instance.'
~Author Unknown

"Speak when you are angry - and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret.”

~ Dr. Laurence J. Peter

                                                                                                            




“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
 ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

“There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot.”~Plato 

                                                                                                           
P.S:
We need to learn be able to communicate our thoughts in a way that we wish the other person to understand our point of view.That does not happen,when we get angry.We usually end up saying things we regret. 
That is why we are asked to count to 10 ( or...100:) when we feel angry......it gives us time to calm down.
The way I see it......as human beings we are bound to experience the whole gamut of emotions, including anger.So feeling the emotion is not what is wrong.......it is staying angry.
Anger is destructive to our well-being at all levels.So the best mantra is.....
feel it .....acknowledge it...LET IT GO.
Namaste,
Bhagya